February 3, 2015
Forgiving is not about being the better person. It's not something you do for the other person. It's not solely about 'patching things up' either.
Forgiving is difficult. Forgiving hurts, it opens up old wounds. Wounds you didn't even know you had.
You find yourself going over past hurts, one by one. Even and especially the old and forgotten ones.
One by one you take out the barbs still stuck in these memories. You painstakingly and methodically open these festering wounds and drain them. You root around these and find all remnants of hurt that still poison your soul. And you deal with them!
Once you've done this, you can dress these wounds and give them the time to finally heal.
Forgiving hurts. But, it's cathartic.
Most of all… it's liberating.